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Friday, April 15, 2011

My engagement to Jeffrey is a long one. We knew that from the start. Our tentative-wedding-date keeps getting pushed back further and further. We simply cannot afford a wedding right now.

But lately, with my stress levels off the charts, I've been really needing to focus on the happiest things in my life. One of the thing in my life that is absolutely fantastic is my relationship with Jeffrey. Since we're both busy, we aren't spending as much time together as we want to. Since I can't focus on actually BEING with him, I've, instead, been focusing on our wedding.

Some of it I find boring (seriously, who gets chair-covers?) some of it I can't even justify vaguely fantasizing about without talking to him (location, food, music?) but some of it, I can totally justify looking at.

Stop. Pause, Step back. I've been planning my wedding since I was 12, or maybe earlier. Why is it that now that I'm engaged, I feel the need to justify looking at wedding things? Whatever.

Back to the topic at hand.

Why the HELL are weddings so expensive? Who can justify spending several thousand dollars on a DRESS? I fell in love, the other day, with a dress. I will not be getting this glorious dress because it costs $1000. I can't do it. Even if I had the money, I wouldn't do it. Surely it doesn't cost that much to make the dress. The materials aren't that pricey, and how much time really goes into making the dress?

I've discovered something though. Prom dresses are a lot cheaper than wedding dresses. EVEN when they are the same style, by the same designer, with the same fabrics. I don't have the links anymore but I did find a case where that happened. They even used the exact same picture on the website. The prom dress was somewhere in the $200-300 range, and the wedding dress was about $1000. It was hilarious (but also saddening) So now I'm looking for white prom dresses. Besides, I don't want a train on my dress, and that's easier to find in prom dresses than bridal gowns.

Weirdness about me? I won't wear a second-hand wedding-dress unless I know who else has worn it. I would wear a dress if it was passed down from someone in my family, if one were to exist (I don't think anyone has their dress anymore but whatever). But wedding dresses are..... memories. Keep sakes. I guess I'm a little superstitious. I don't want to wear someone else's memories. It seems in poor taste.

I also fell in love with flowers, but those aren't as dramatically expensive.


Teri S. said...

I remember when I was planning my wedding a few years back. It's like they attach the word 'wedding' to something and automatically double or triple the price, for the same stuff. Wait til you start checking out prices for flowers and the food to serve your guests. My advice, plan for a long, relaxing honeymoon to relieve all that wedding planning stress! :)

April 15, 2011 at 3:18 PM
E Boat said...

Oh flowers terrify me! I looked at flowers for a day or two, decided that there aren't going to be any decorative flowers unless I magically turn into a gardener. I haven't told Jeffrey that, but I don't think our budget will allow it. We'll find something else to decorate with. There will be bouquets and.... whatever they're called. Man-flowers. (Okay, I know what they're called but I can't spell it, and I don't like spelling mistakes)

Food is going to kill me. I know food is going to kill me. BUT BUT BUT, my cake is taken care of. I happen to be related to a retired cake-decorator (she's a fantastic baker as well, though she never worked on that really) who offered to do my cake. Relief.

April 16, 2011 at 1:10 PM

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